My wife and I have three kids.  When our first child was born we were overly attentive to her. It was bad! Every time she would make a noise, and I am talking any kind of sound. It could have been a pout, whimper, grunt, pout, or slightest version of a cry, and we would run to her and make sure we helped calm the situation.

IT IS GOOD TO CRY OUT FOR HELP!

Psalm 109:26-27  “Help me, O Lord my God! Save me by Your loving-kindness.  Let them know that this is Your hand and that You, O Lord, have done it.”

But the problem that we ran into was she would get used to us rushing in and saving her from the slightest frustration or inconvenience. And because we always rushed in to intervene, it caused her to become even fussier. Because she knew we were coming to the rescue after any kind of noise. 

With our second child, we took a much different route! We learned that even though she would also get upset like her older sister, she would have to learn that not every situation needed mom and dad’s intervention. Sometimes she (and her older sister) would just have to cry it out and realize that the “problem” she was facing wasn’t really worth fussing over. 

My encouragement isn’t that we stop asking for God’s help in the face of stressful moments. Ask, and ask often. But not everything we go through needs His intervention. Sometimes we need to cry so that we can realize that what we are going through will pass and then we can find calm.

1 Peter 1:7 ESV  So that the tested genuineness of your faith—more precious than gold that perishes though it is tested by fire—may be found to result in praise and glory and honor at the revelation of Jesus Christ